Find Your Inner Sass
Life Coach for Women
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05/20/136 Signs You Need to LeaveI’ve been there a couple of times in my career and I can still remember how horrible it felt. I’m talking about that feeling at work when there are too many hours in the day and days in the week. You’re constantly watching the clock and living for when you go on your next vacation. You are unhappy. If anyone is experiencing those feelings right now, it could very well be a sign that you need to leave your job. Here are 6 similar signs that indicate you might need to make a change in your life as quickly as possible: Your anxiety heightens the closer you get to your workplace. Are you in a bad mood every Sunday because Monday morning work is fast approaching? Does your angst increase the closer you get to the office building? Do you get... |
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05/09/13Life TransitionsFor years, the trampoline has been a staple of our backyard. When my older son was in high school, it was a common occurrence to see a slew of kids in the backyard jumping on the trampoline. After he went away to college, my younger son and his friends pretty much took over where he had left off. The trampoline got so much mileage that we eventually had to buy a new one. At the time, I thought it was kind of crazy for us to make another purchase. You see, my son was turning 16 and only had a couple years left at home. However, the new trampoline got plenty of usage and the backyard again was filled with laughter. My younger son is now 21 years old. In the last year or so, the trampoline hasn’t really seen much action. However, a new family... |
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04/22/13MultitaskingI was out shopping for clothes the other day, trying to get in the mood for Spring. Let me rephrase that: I’m definitely in the mood for Spring— I’m just waiting for the weather to cooperate with my wishes. Anyway, as I walked up to the counter, the young woman said to me, “Hi, how are you today”. That in and of itself doesn’t seem so unusual. However, by the tone of her voice, it was evident to me that she didn’t mean one word of what she had just mumbled. The words came out in a monotone and she didn’t look up from what she was doing. They were words she was obligated to share with me. I spent the next five minutes trying to determine what exactly was going on with her. Was this just her... |
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04/08/13Birthday LessonsIt’s my birthday tomorrow. Thanks to Facebook, it isn’t a secret that it’s my birthday. It’s normal protocol for people to ask what you’re doing to celebrate this special day. I feel obligated to tell them something much more interesting than my reality— I’m going out to dinner with good friends. Actually, my day stacks up like this: at 8:00, I’ll probably go to the gym and work out for an hour. By 10:30, I have an appointment to take Biscuit and Joey, my two cats, to the Vet for a check-up. This in itself should be an exciting experience. The last time I attempted this trip, deep guttural sounds emanated from the back seat and scared the heck out of me. By 12:00, I have a friend taking me to... |
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03/27/13Find Your StrengthsWhen I was in college working on my undergraduate degree, each day was like swimming upstream. I had a lot of anxiety surrounding studying and test taking. This anxiety came with good reason-I wasn’t real good at it. The information went in my brain and then quickly left. When I finally did take a test, I often felt that the questions on the test looked foreign compared to the information I had pored over for hours. If a good portion of it was essay, I would be relieved and my anxiety would decrease considerably. I knew that I could somehow articulate to the professor my level of knowledge on the subject. Little did I realize why this was so much easier for me. One of my strengths was communication (imagine that). For many years, I viewed... |
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03/19/13A Break in the RoutineMy head was spinning with all the “stuff” I needed to get accomplished today. My “to do” list was unusually long and I was trying to not feel overwhelmed. It was one of those days where you have trouble deciding just where to begin. I’m sure you’ve been in my shoes before. There’s a good chance that you have a million things to get done as well. In spite of this situation I found myself in, I wanted to share with you how I ended up spending my morning. When I woke up this morning, I realized that we had received quite a bit of snow. The driveway needed to be shoveled and I was the only one in the house that could do it (Miles the Pug wasn’t volunteering). So, after having my coffee and breakfast, I... |
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02/28/13Long Term SolutionsI was having a conversation with a friend at the gym this morning. We were talking about our children and our lives, and that led to a conversation about relationships. She shared that she knew someone that was in a bad marriage and had been for years. She wasn’t sure why this friend stayed in this relationship, but lately, the friend had been telling her about another man that was paying attention to her. This new infatuation took up a lot of space in her head and the whole thing really bothered my friend. She didn’t understand why this woman was turning to someone else when she had a current relationship that obviously needed attention. I agreed with her. Frankly, I’ve seen this same scenario play out over and over... |
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02/11/13Passive-AgressivenessAccording to the dictionary, passive-aggressive behavior is a category of interpersonal interactions characterized by an obstructionist or hostile manner that indicates aggression. In more general terms, people that exhibit passive-aggressiveness express this in non-assertive, subtle ways. I hit the gym especially early this week since I was very busy with appointments. I was happy to see an old friend I hadn’t connected with for some time. I took my spot on the elliptical machine and was glad to see that she was close enough to have a conversation with. The time began to fly by as we caught up on various current events. Suddenly, I noticed a man on the other side of my friend. As we continued to talk, I saw that he was imitating us. He was moving... |
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02/04/13MythbustersIn my work as a women’s life coach, I often discover that it’s a value or principle incorporated into a woman’s life that’s holding her back from greatness. It’s possible that they’ve held on to it from very early in their life. It doesn’t matter when it was internalized or when it became a compass for decision-making— it’s the fact that this principle or value they hold onto so tightly is impeding their progress to move forward that should be alarming. In lieu of this, I would like to spend some time busting a few popular myths believed by women that get in the way of their happiness and success. You need to achieve work/life balance. What the heck is work/life balance? The truth is that... Posted at 09:35 PM | Permalink | Comments: 1 |
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01/31/13Dealing with DisappointmentMy son was home from college for two weeks during the holidays. I had talked to him before the break and had secured his “employment” in sound production. I wanted to make an audiobook of “31 Days to Finding Your Inner Sass”. We had discussed the process and he reassured me he knew exactly what needed to be done. You see, my son is a Music Production major and regularly records his own work. He knows everything about recording and sound. He’s also a perfectionist- which can be a good thing or a bad thing, dependent on the situation. Frankly, I usually like this quality in my employees. I’m not quite sure why, but I had assumed this whole process would be simple. All you have to do is read into a microphone... |
As a Mental Health Therapist, Women’s Life Coach, International Speaker and Author, Shari works with you to identify the challenges that are standing in the way of you reaching your full potential. After enjoying a very successful career in Business Operations and Program Development, Shari decided to go back to school to fulfill a dream of receiving her Mental Health Degree. Her vast business experience combined with her Mental Health expertise gave her the perfect combination of skills to help women discover where they belong, subsequently reinventing their lives.
